How To Tell If Someone Is Attracted To You

How To Tell If Someone Is Attracted To You

Vanessa Van Edwards3 minFeb 10, 2017
5 chapters
  • Introduction to Attraction Recognition(0'000'36)
    Do you know when someone is attracted to you? This is one of the most frequent questions asked.
    On Twitter, followers were asked if they know when someone is attracted to them. Results showed 53% said true and 47% said false, making it nearly evenly split.
    The video presents a couple of signs that reveal if someone is attracted to you.
    Three easy things to look out for to determine if someone is attracted to you are presented.
  • Physical Proximity and Space(0'361'23)
    Proxemics is the body language term for space between people.
    When we like something or someone, we want to move towards it. We are naturally drawn closer to things we like, whether a delicious cake or an attractive person.
    • Someone leaning in towards you • Someone reaching out towards you • Standing closer to you • Entering your intimate zone, which is about eighteen inches away from your body
    Paying attention to how much they come into your intimate zone indicates something positive is happening, even if it is not definitive proof of attraction.
  • Physical Touch and Bonding(1'232'25)
    Haptics is the term for touch. When we touch someone, we release oxytocin, the bonding chemical that makes us feel warm and connected.
    Oxytocin is the chemical of bonding. That warm, gushy feeling when we really like someone is actually oxytocin coursing through our bloodstream.
    • Reaching out and shaking hands • Touching your forearm or upper arm • Putting a hand on your shoulder • Giving you a hug, which produces the most oxytocin
    Count how many times they reach out to cross the touch boundary. Every time they want physical contact, they are trying to produce oxytocin and create a bond with you.
  • Eye Contact and Mutual Gazing(2'252'57)
    Mutual gazing, or both people looking at each other while speaking or listening, is another way to produce oxytocin besides touch.
    The more eye contact you have with someone, the more bonded you feel with them and the more oxytocin you produce.
    • Are they looking straight at you • Are they looking off into space • Are they checking their phone • Are they looking down or to the side
    Direct eye contact is a signal that they want to have that kind of chemical bond and connection with you.
  • Summary and Call to Action(2'573'21)
    There are three really easy things you can look out for to see if someone is attracted to you: proxemics, haptics, and eye contact.
    Never miss a mutual crush by being aware of these attraction signs.
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