7 First Date Tips for Men - Avoid these 7 common mistakes...

Jim Wolf from Dating Advice 4 Men Who Love Women presents seven tips to improve first dates and avoid common mistakes.

According to match.com, a woman goes on an average of 24 first dates before she wants to go out with one of those guys again, while most of those men were interested in dating her again.

The presentation aims to help men avoid seven common first date mistakes to become the guy she wants to see again.

Seven specific dating mistakes will be covered with actionable advice for each one.

Many men make first dates way too long by including long meals and activities afterward, overwhelming the experience.

Think of a first date like a Costco sample - give her a little taste of you, let her get to know you a bit, have some fun, then end it. Don't serve a full seven-course meal at a sample stand.

• Aim for 45 minutes to an hour for the first date • Exception: If you've known her for a long time before dating, you can make it slightly longer • For women met online, at bars, or recently, keep it short

• Grab coffee instead of dinner • Get ice cream or smoothies • Choose low-key activities that allow conversation • Keep time and money investment minimal for both people

• It's the most clichéd date idea that shows lack of creativity • The combination takes too long for a first date • You can't talk during the movie, sitting in the dark next to a stranger

Your main purpose on a first date is to get her talking and laughing, which is impossible in a dark movie theater without annoying others.

Choose activities where you can have fun and talk with her, allowing genuine conversation and connection.

Avoid dinner and a movie for at least your first three dates. After that, you can do it if you want.

Most guys talk too much because they want to convince her why she should like them, often due to nervousness.

Get her talking about herself in a way that feels good to her by asking open-ended questions.

• If you had a billion dollars and never had to work again, what would you do and why? • If you could be any animal, what would you be and why? • Use fun, open-ended questions that allow her to talk and show her personality

She should be talking about 60 to 80% of the time on your first date. People feel closer to those they share themselves with, not those who share with them, so her comfort and attraction increase when she opens up to you.

Bragging shows you're seeking her approval, which is unattractive. It doesn't matter if you have an awesome job, house, yacht, or guitar skills.

Let her discover your cool qualities on her own over time rather than telling her directly to try to impress her.

Not talking about yourself or bragging shows more confidence than telling her about cool things. When she discovers your house on a third date without you mentioning it, she'll think you're confident, not desperate for approval.

External possessions like houses are not actually part of who you are. Using external things to impress someone shows you're seeking approval, which is unattractive.

Giving too many compliments is another way to seek her approval and appears disingenuous since you don't know her well yet.

When you just meet a woman or go on a first date, you're essentially projecting qualities onto her because you're attracted to her, which she can sense and finds uncomfortable.

She wants to know you like her for who she is, not just because she's good-looking. Excessive compliments suggest you're attracted to her appearance rather than her character.

Limit yourself to one genuine, light compliment on the first date to have a much better chance of getting a second date.

Do not compliment her body or looks unless it's very general like 'you look really nice tonight' or something unique she rarely hears from others.

You've already told her you think she's good-looking by asking her out on a date. You don't need to say it again verbally - you've demonstrated it through your actions.

• She might feel uncomfortable with body or looks compliments, especially if sexual in nature • Best case: she feels good for 2 seconds • Worst case: she feels extremely uncomfortable and doesn't want to see you again • There's no reason to take this risk with such small upside and huge downside

Only compliment unique features like 'I really think your ears are cute' or 'I like your nose' if they're genuinely distinctive observations.

Women tend to fall in love slower than men. Getting serious on a first date is way too soon and doesn't align with how she processes emotions and attraction.

Like a cactus that dies from overwatering, showing your interest over and over repeatedly will kill the relationship. You need to give it a little water a little at a time, spacing everything out and taking it slower.

• Don't talk about serious, heavy, or negative subjects • Don't dump your insecurities and problems on her • Don't bring flowers or gifts on the first date • Don't talk about your future together • Don't ask her to marry you or be your girlfriend

• Do something active like grab coffee and go for a walk • Take her on a hike or play board games at a bar • Focus on having fun, unique, shared experiences together • Building connection is more about fun and shared experiences than deep subject bonding

If she has a great time with you, shares positive things about herself, and you keep the first date simple, short, and fun, she'll show up excited for your second date and beyond.

You now know seven common mistakes to avoid on the first date to ensure she shows up for a second date.

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