5 First Date Tips That Make Him Want You More (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

A date is like a trailer for the movie that is you, designed to showcase the best version of yourself.

You don't need predetermined phrases to be authentic. Like experienced dancers who master moves first then freestyle, you can use these tips as building blocks arranged your own way.

This video provides conversational techniques that you can combine and adapt to your natural style.

Matthew Hussey presents five practical strategies to improve attraction on first dates.

Studies show that expressing certainty about liking something is more attractive than using uncertain language like 'kind of' or 'sort of'.

• Strong opinions create attraction • Hedging language reduces attractiveness • Certainty stands out to potential partners

When you express a strong opinion, be prepared to defend it playfully. The fun tension between disagreeing and agreeing creates engaging, dynamic conversation.

Say 'I love the movie La La Land' rather than qualifying it. Then engage in light-hearted debate about your opinion.

Say 'I bet you'd be fun to do [activity] with,' which both compliments his quality and plants the idea of a future date in his mind.

• Recognizes and validates his positive qualities • Makes him envision a future date with you • Creates excitement about spending more time together • Subtly suggests the next step in dating

If he loves music, say 'I bet you'd be fun to go to a concert with.' If he's a learner who travels, say 'I bet you'd be fun to go to a museum with.'

He starts thinking, 'I'd like to see her again. I wonder what we would do. I guess we could go to a museum' — essentially a date within a date.

On dates, small activities come up organically — getting popcorn at the cinema, getting names written on rice at Santa Monica Pier. These are cheap, easy, and meaningful moments.

Many men are too cool or manly to suggest these small things, but they secretly want to do them. Your feminine energy suggesting 'Let's get one' gives him permission and creates a special moment.

At the cinema, when he points out something interesting like rice grains with names written on them, say 'Let's get one' to initiate a fun, shared experience.

By saying yes to little things, you show enthusiasm and openness, which makes him feel more connected and wanted.

Conversations about relationships on dates can feel intense and scary, often leading to either overly casual deflection or desperate commitment messaging.

• Passive approach: 'I don't know, I'm just playing it cool' — seems uninterested • Desperate approach: 'I only want a relationship' — scares people away

Say something like 'I like the idea of a relationship, but it has to be the right one,' which shows interest while maintaining standards.

You're interested in relationships but selective about who you choose, demonstrating both openness and self-respect.

End the date by saying 'This has been fun, but next time could you please not wear that shirt because it gives you an unfair advantage.'

• Creates intrigue and confusion, making him think about what you said • The punchline 'it gives you an unfair advantage' is an unexpected, charming compliment • He'll remember that shirt and want to wear it again

His brain is engaged trying to understand the compliment, making it stick in his memory. That shirt will stand out in his wardrobe with a 'halo' around it.

Every time he opens his closet and sees that shirt, he'll think of you and remember the compliment, increasing attraction.

The five techniques are designed to create more attraction and magnetism on first dates.

If you're not getting enough dates with people you want to date, take extra steps rather than remaining a passive spectator.

Matthew offers 'Attract Any Man' program to help you get excited about your love life, learn to take qualified risks, and meet quality men to date.

Be someone who's actively in the game and taking steps forward, not just watching from the sidelines.